Your child is throwing the temper tantrum of the century. Scratching, hitting, biting, spitting, and screaming—it cannot get much worse. What do you do? Do you spank your child or will that just make matters worse?
Spanking is one of the most controversial forms of child discipline. Most child development professionals agree that spanking is ineffective and may lead to more aggressive behavior. But many individuals and groups support or encourage spanking as part of a disciplinary approach for children. According to the National Survey of Early Childhood Health, other commonly used forms of discipline include taking away toys or treats, yelling, using time out, and giving explanations.
So what should parents do? Is spanking the best way to discipline children or are other methods more effective?
Discipline is a way of teaching children the restraint and values necessary to become competent and independent adults. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), an effective discipline system contains 3 vital elements:
Positive, supportive parent-child relationshipsPositive reinforcement strategies to increase desired behaviorsRemoving reinforcement strategies or applying punishment to reduce or eliminate undesired behaviors
Most parents reward good behaviors and punish bad behaviors. The American Academy of Family Physicians (AAFP) suggests rewarding your child’s good behavior with things like:
PraiseAn extra bedtime storyDelaying bedtime by a half hourA preferred snackPoints toward a special toy or privilege
Bad behaviors, on the other hand, can be punished by:
Ignoring the behaviorSending your child to time-outTaking away privileges
Many parents report that they use spanking to punish unacceptable behaviors, but most child development professionals agree that spanking is among the least effective forms of discipline.
Research shows that although spanking can stop an undesirable behavior in the short-term, its effectiveness diminishes with each subsequent spanking. The AAP has identified the following consequences of spanking:
Spanking children younger than 18 months increases the chances of physical injury, and the child is unlikely to understand the connection between the behavior and the punishment.Repeated spanking may cause agitated, aggressive behavior in the child that may lead to physical altercation between parent and child.Spanking models aggressive behavior as a solution to conflict and has been associated with increased aggression in children.Spanking and threats of spanking lead to altered parent-child relationships, making discipline more difficult when physical punishment is no longer an option, such as with adolescents.Spanking is no more effective than other disciplinary approaches, and reliance on spanking as a disciplinary approach makes other strategies less effective.A pattern of spanking may be sustained or increased.
Other studies have shown that spanking prior to the age of 2 was strongly associated with behavior problems when children reached school age. These findings were significant only for white, non-Hispanic children.
Another study in the journal showed a link between harsh physical punishment and risk for mood disorders, anxiety, alcohol and drug abuse, and personality disorders.
For these reasons, the AAP strongly discourages any form of striking a child. They recommend that, if the spanking is spontaneous, parents should calmly explain why they did it, how angry they felt, and perhaps apologize to the child.
If spanking is not effective, what is? Many child development professionals recommend extinction approaches, or the removal of positive reinforcement after unacceptable behavior. Two effective and commonly used extinction approaches are the time-out method and the removal of privileges.
is highly effective for young children. To use this option, you must first set ground rules. Make it clear to your child which behaviors will warrant a time-out. Select a quiet, removed location where your child will have to sit.
When your child misbehaves, give one warning, then put him or her in time-out if the behavior continues. Set a timer right away. The AAFP recommends 1 minute for each year of age. You should stay within earshot and reset the timer if your child continues to misbehave. When the timer is over, allow your child to leave the designated area.
Removal of privileges usually works best for older children and adolescents. Make a short list of important rules your child must follow, and let him or her know what the consequences of breaking the rules are.
Removing privileges such as driving, watching TV, or playing video games for a set amount of time is effective in discouraging future rule breaking. Another effective strategy that works well with adolescents and even older children is not allowing them to participate in activities, such as parties or outings with friends.
While time-out and removal of privileges both work well for punishing and discouraging bad behavior, you should also encourage good behavior by rewarding it. Praise your child when he or she deserves it. Extend your child’s privileges when he or she follows the rules. Develop a points system that allows your child to earn points toward a reward with good behavior.
By teaching your child that bad behavior is unacceptable and good behavior is rewarded, you will have instilled important values in your child that will help him or her become a self-sufficient, well-adjusted young adult.
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Last reviewed April 2015 by Michael Woods, MD
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