Many people express concern about sexual issues while they are undergoing cancer treatment. Having an open mind and understanding that changes will occur will help you handle with them as they come up during the course of your treatment.
No matter if you are undergoing treatment for
or are recently diagnosed, you may want information on sexual issues that you are facing now or that you are concerned about for the future.
One side effect of
can be vaginal dryness, the result of early
caused by damage to the ovaries during treatment. Dryness can make sex painful or difficult. Try using a water-based lubricant without additives that can irritate the vaginal lining, such as perfumes or flavors. Try to avoid gels that contain herbal extracts or gels that create a warming sensation. In some women, they can cause an allergic reaction.
Vaginal moisturizers help retain moisture and proper acid balance. They are used for longer periods of time to help with dryness outside of sexual intercourse. Moisturizers are available without a prescription.
Losing a breast through a
can considerably impact your sex life. It's okay, even encouraged, to mourn what you lost. The important part of acceptance is the ability to know when to move forward after a period of grieving. During this process, focus your attention on the fact that you survived your cancer and you are better and stronger for it.
Once you adjust to the way you look, take the next step and communicate your feelings with your partner. It is also important for your partner to express how they feel. If you feel frustrated and angry, try not to use it in a negative manner. It may spark an arguement and alienate your partner even more.
If you are feeling self-conscious, it may be tempting to avoid intercourse. If you feel this way, start out slowly. Make time with your partner to share some touch time. This can make you feel closer and help you rebuild your sexual relationship. During this time, clarify to your partner if something hurts. It may be an area that was not sensitive to pain before your surgery.
It is possible that your partner is uncomfortable viewing or touching your scar. Again, communication is important. Don't jump to conclusions. There may be a good reason that has nothing to do with your new look. Your partner may be afraid of hurting you.
Communication and a sense of humor are your best tools for rebuilding your sex life. If you and your partner keep experiencing difficulties, a
may be able to help you.
Even if you feel entirely comfortable with your sex appeal, the thought of sexual intercourse may be the furthest thing from your mind. You may not feel the desire, or you may be experiencing the fatigue that can last long after chemotherapy is over. For whatever reason, the idea of sexual activity may seem daunting.
There are exercises are aimed at increasing in-the-moment sensation with all-over body sensations. There is no pressure for any genital contact or orgasm until you're ready. Make a date with your partner and take these steps: Your partner touches the back of your body for 15 minutes, and then the front of your body for another 15 minutes, avoiding your breasts and genitals. You then do the same for your partner.You touch one another for the same amount of time, but this time you can allow your partner to touch your genitals and breasts, and you can touch your partner's genitals. If you're uncomfortable, just stick with the first step until you're ready to progress.
The sensations you share might include soft kissing, light touching, or massage—any type of touch that you or your partner enjoys. You may need to try a new way of having sex. Use the time to explore each other and make new connections. These steps may lead you to sexual intercourse and orgasm.
Regardless of all the self-help information about reviving your sex life after breast cancer treatment, do not forget the most important point. If you do not feel like having sex, for whatever length of time, you do not have to.
You can certainly have a loving, deep intimate relationship without a sexually intimate part to it. Keep an open mind and when you're ready, work you're way slowly toward sexual intimacy.